A BLESSED mom who gave birth to her stillborn son almost 15 years ago has channeled her grief over the tragic situation into creating something positive for other families.
Cathy Milburn enlisted the help of children from her church’s youth program to turn three wedding dresses into 14 dresses for babies born asleep or who died soon after birth.
The 45-year-old, who previously helped set up Great Western Hospital’s Forget Me Not Bereavement suite with the Swindon Sands group, donated the gowns to the hospital’s maternity ward.
She worked with ten daughters of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints each week to transform the dresses into baby-sized dresses.
Cathy donated her own wedding dress and said, “After going through this process as a family I thought what a great way to honor these other babies and thought it was totally appropriate. .
“You never get over it but you learn to live with it. I took Adam with me, which is why I do things like design baby dresses and start a Swindon Sands support group in 2008.
“I was 31 weeks pregnant when I realized something was wrong because I couldn’t feel Adam moving.
“I was told there was no heartbeat on New Years Eve and then on January 2nd I had to give birth.
“It was absolutely horrible, I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.
“We didn’t have an outfit for Adam so we had to run to Mothercare and find something. It would have been nice to have this selection of dresses or something to choose from.
“Mothering is the last place you want to be when you learn that you will not be bringing your baby home.
“I wanted the dresses to stay locally because I know the midwives there and the service they provide.”
Adam shaped Cathy’s life in so many ways. Previously, she worked as a wedding coordinator, but changed her career path to starting her own business selling personalized mourning jewelry.
Heart in their Hand is a jewelry project specializing in heart key chains. The heart can pop out of the keychain and be placed in the hand of a loved one while the keychain comes home with the family.
Providing a physical connection to a lost family member after they left was the motivation behind Cathy’s project.
Kathryn Owen, Matron Midwife, said, “We are so grateful to Cathy Milburn, the young women of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in Stratton, for their incredibly kind and caring gift.
“Losing a baby is traumatic and unimaginable for most of us, but these gowns will provide so much comfort for families and their babies.
“It’s really special that they are made from wedding dresses and we would like to say a big thank you to everyone who made and donated a dress. ”